Do kids see race?

Barack Obama tweeted recently

 

‘No one is born hating another person because of the color of his skin or his background or his religion……’

 

I am starting to wonder if, as well as pure ignorance, has political correctness contributed to Racism.

Obama is right, so at what age do you start noticing and worrying about racism?

My ten and eight year old sons were sitting in the back of the car with a friend of theirs who is mixed race.

Amongst the shouting and laughing coming from the back seat, I heard one of my sons say

‘you’re so black…..you….’

He couldn’t finish because I hit my brakes, pulled over and totally lost my head.  I started going into a rant about how I hadn’t brought him up to say things like that.

Before I could finish his friend stopped me.

‘Kate, we were just roasting each other! I just said to Harri, you’re so white, you must be invisible when its snows’

I laughed! and I was so relieved.

But It made me sit back and think,

Am I creating issues about colour that the kids don’t even see.

My kids aren’t racist, not even slightly, so why did I go so mad when I heard him say that?

Because, to make reference someone’s skin colour in a negative way is racist.  But,  Is it only racist if that person takes offence?

As their mum,  it’s my job to make sure they are brought knowing what is right and wrong.

I remember when Charlie was at nursery, he had the most wonderful teacher, Mrs Patel.  One day she pulled me to one side to say that another teacher had asked Charlie what he wanted to do.  He asked if the ‘chocolate’ lady could read him another story.

I WAS MORTIFIED.  I couldn’t apologise enough.

Mrs Patel hadn’t told me out of disappointment.  She thought it was the most wonderful thing she had ever heard! This little three year old was just describing her as best he could and she was nothing but flattered that he enjoyed her reading to him.

The Political Correctness that has been bashed into me over the years had almost convinced me that my little boy was showing racist traits at three years old!

Right now, my kids see past skin colour, and I’m not going to change that

Back to Obamas Tweet……..how cute is George and his fiend Si-si…..

 

What are your thoughts? X 

 

 

 

Burning my bra! 

I always try to keep my blog posts light hearted but as I am lucky enough to have this platform I am going to use it to rant today.
This isn’t to lecture or cause controversy.   This is just me,  unleashing my anger that has consumed me for the past 24 hours.

I haven’t seen any of my girlfriends in that time to unleash my rage on so I’m afraid you, as my friends and blog viewers are going to get it full blast.
Yesterday a post popped up on my newsfeed, it said ;
‘PETITION….1.6 million people signed to stop a man coming into the country, how many will sign to save the most innocent and defenseless in our society…’

It was a petition to withdraw Abortion from NHS funding.
Now I’m not a hardcore feminist, I have always believed in equal rights, but im not someone who gets offended by a builder Wolf whistling or a fella saying ‘ cheers love ‘ and I like a man to open the door for me and offering to buy me a drink.

But….this post has turned me into a full blown, bra burning women’s right advocate.


Everyone is entitled to their opinion,  that is what is amazing about living in a free, democratic society,  but when an opinion or view is imposed on me,  or more importantly my children and future generations every part of my maternal protection kicks in.
This petition has been started by a man and encouraged by men it appears.

Of the 320 comments that followed this post to date, every pro life comment was from a man.
Pro-life – I have a bit of an issue with this term.  I am pro life,  I’m certainly not anti-life.  I certainly am pro choice, not anti-choice which I think is a more appropriate term.


I think Pro-life is a term someone gave to give the argument more moral weight.
Some of the comments included :

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‘The NHS is taxpayer funded which means that as a taxpayer I am required to fund abortions. I believe abortion is murder and while I understand using that word is evocative that is my belief. There are many others who share my views so it seems unreasonable to expect us to fund what we believe to be murder”

“1) around 1% of abortion cases involve rape but even then does having a rapist as a parent invalidate someone’s life

2) for 1% of cases our Public Health Service should allow the 99% deaths”

“this is muder i think every one should sign this god bless all the litte on born babys pray for the mothers murdering ther  babys an the pepol that help do it god bless jesus loves you all”

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These are just a few of the tamer views that were shared by pro life people on this post.

I found my blood boiling to the point of obsession and disgust.

Being anti abortion I completly understand,  especially if you are a man who can not relate to the reasoning behind a termination.

But to impose you belief on me?  On my daughter?  On my sister?  On my friend?  Go f#ck yourself!
It is a debate that has been going on for years.

It has also made me think about mens views on it.

Are they entitled to an opinion? of corse.

If a consenting couple find themselves pregnant, should the father have a say over the life of his unborn child?…..absolutely.

But,  unfortunately guys we do have the final say.

This isn’t about sexism but simple biology,  we carry the baby for nine months,  we sacrifice our body and mind and we alone go through child birth.

We can not walk away a few weeks into it because it’s too much for us to handle.

We look after the baby for the rest of their life, so really,  who should have the final say?!
Another point I have found myself thinking about for the first time is, what would happen if the NHS did stop funding abortions.

Desperate girls and women Googling ‘ how to perform home abortions?’ Throwing us back to the 30’s and 40’s where women downed a bottle of gin and sat in a boiling hot bath?  or worse!

Jesus, it doesn’t bare thinking about.   Babies abandoned at hospital steps,  care homes over flowing, burdening a child welfare system that is at breaking point already?
Babies with severe disabilities or deformities being born to mothers that can not cope.

Women traumatised by rape, being forced to birth the baby of their rapist.  Then having to decide if they can live with a baby that they may resent. Or give It up and have further torture wondering if they ever did the right thing.

Or a girl who simply enjoys sex but who’s contraceptive failed….. How dare she have enjoyed herself without out weighing up whether, if the protection doesn’t work, could she cope with a baby.  After all,  that is why she used it in the first place!

I’m sure the fella was thinking the same thing while he was getting ready to have his fun!
I also find a man’s view on a termination interesting.  A comment that kept coming up was a women using it as a form of contraceptive.  how ridiculous! Their is a difference between a women making the mistake more than once and ‘ using it as contraception’

As if a termination is as simple as taking the morning after pill.

Do any of these men understand what it is to go through a termination!? The turmoil most women find themselves in is indescribable.

A procedure which either way causes physical discomfort and pain not to mention the mental effect.

Honestly guys, no one thinks,  don’t worry, I’ll just have an abortion!

I commented a few times on this post.

I liken it to banging my head against a brick wall.

Surprisingly,  only one man tried to defend his opinion.   Albeit a poor defence!

He said that he believes in nurturing all children and babies.

I call…..bullshit!!!

I had to point out,  he is far from nuturing the young 14 year old girl who’s experimenting found herself pregnant and at risk of ruining the rest of her life.

These men!  Honestly! I dispair

I refer to men because not one women defended the petition.
As I read through the posts comments that kept pinging up, it was like watching an argument between me and one of my kids.

I could picture in my mind a grown man,  frowning with his arms crossed and stomping his feet.
‘but I just don’t like it,  it’s wrong,  it’s murder, you are evil ‘

And when a proper debate starts they dissappear or throw their toys out of their pram.

‘ you’re just being mean to me because I don’t agree with you…..’ boo hoo’
1- I’m being mean?  trust me,  I’m holding myself together with all that is in me.

2- you put your opinion out their,  shoving it down my throat,  so have a bit back.
Totally narrow minded,  self righteous men,  who, after spouting about how women shouldn’t be allowed terminations, even though their well be thousands more unwantes babies in the world, probably role their eyes at me when I walk in the supermarket with six kids in tow…… Twats!!!
I must add,  there are also a huge amount of men supporting women.  I found that equally as encouraging.
I feel like, for the first time in my life,  my right as a women is being questioned.

Now as a mum to a little girl,  this struck a cord even more.
Finding myself slightly obsessed with this post I naturally found myself stalking the Facebook pages of some of the worst culprits.

It made me sad to see many were very religious,  one even a pastor.

I grew up a Christian and still have my beliefs.

Unfortunately, I do also feel this highlights the church’s hypocrisy on some subjects.

Wow, I feel so much better now.   Thanks for listening,  sorry if I have provoked anger (maybe even towards me)

But, if my daughter comes to me one day in a position she never thought she would find herself in, dispite all my ‘ safe sex ‘ talks,  I know Mike and I would put our arms round her,  explain ALL her options and support her no matter what she decides.

I’m not going to actively promote this post due to its controversy.

However,  if you feel it is important to you or has struck a cord, please like and share away.
Peace out ✌

What a week

What a draining and eventful week.  Not only for me, but the whole country!
Britain voted to leave the EU! Who saw that coming?

Ironically, the remainers are accusing the leavers of dividing Britain. Although,  it is this attitude that I believe is making a divide.
Don’t get me wrong, I am as nervous as everyone but the backlash has disappointed me slightly.
Ever the optimist, I would have liked to think that now is time to come together and make our children’s futures as great as we can. 

Anyway,  enough of politics,  I’m sick of it!

After spending Friday night celebrating a friends hen do I spent all day yesterday on the sofa.
I haven’t had a hangover like that since I was 21!

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What was I thinking!?  Surely the fifth sambuca shot should have been enough!  I have no business behaving like that now,  I’m a mum of five!….  F#@k it, it’s because I’m a mum of five I behave like that!

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Saturday night I watched Anthony Joshua defended his title without breaking a sweat and Adele had me in tears watching her at Glastonbury.

George is teething badly at the moment.   Our house has a constant moan in the background,  poor little mite!
Calpol has been stocked up and the powder that looks like cocaine wraps.

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To finish the weekend we have spent a lovely day at the school fete.
Reminding me of everything I love about British tradition, spending a overcast summer afternoon with family and friends,  drinking pimms and playing Tombola!

What a week

What a draining and eventful week.  Not only for me, but the whole country!
Britain voted to leave the EU! Who saw that coming?

Ironically, the remainers are accusing the leavers of dividing Britain. Although,  it is this attitude that I believe is making a divide.
Don’t get me wrong, I am as nervous as everyone but the backlash has disappointed me slightly.
Ever the optimist, I would have liked to think that now is time to come together and make our children’s futures as great as we can. 

Anyway,  enough of politics,  I’m sick of it!

After spending Friday night celebrating a friends hen do I spent all day yesterday on the sofa.
I haven’t had a hangover like that since I was 21!

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What was I thinking!?  Surely the fifth sambuca shot should have been enough!  I have no business behaving like that now,  I’m a mum of five!….  F#@k it, it’s because I’m a mum of five I behave like that!

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Saturday night I watched Anthony Joshua defended his title without breaking a sweat and Adele had me in tears watching her at Glastonbury.

George is teething badly at the moment.   Our house has a constant moan in the background,  poor little mite!
Calpol has been stocked up and the powder that looks like cocaine wraps.

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To finish the weekend we have spent a lovely day at the school fete.
Reminding me of everything I love about British tradition, spending a overcast summer afternoon with family and friends,  drinking pimms and playing Tombola!

Orlando heart break 💔

Before you read this, I am not big on politics, this is just my opinion on the latest mass shooting in America.

From what I have read recently, a bi-polar, steroid pumping, wife beater who had shown such aggressive homophobic views that his colleagues had been forced to leave the security firm he worked at because they couldnt tolerate him anymore.
This man was arrested and questioned twice by police after being linked to various ISIS radicals and was on their ‘watch’ list. 

Somehow, because of the gun laws,  this lowlife was able to walk into a sporting goods store and buy a assault rifle and hand gun!?!?
What the f#ck!!!!!!??

I am proud of our gun laws in this country and the security around them.

Mike holds a UK shotgun and fire arms license.
To obtain this licence he had to submit an in depth form to the firearms department, where they carried out criminal record checks and checks on his background.
Once that was approved the local firearms officer had to visit our home. He analysed Mike, his state of mind,  his relationship with me,  his motives for wanting to own a gun and exactly where it would be kept.

Once he had satisfied himself that Mike was responsible enough and low risk he gave him a thorough briefing on what it is to hold a gun license in the UK.

He told Mike that along with a gun licence becomes a huge responsibly. 

If your circumstances change in anyway your licence is revoked immediately .

My point is,  it would have been unlikely that the vile scum that destroyed so many lives in Orlando would have ever had a license here or legal access to a gun.

Don’t get me wrong,  this doesn’t mean things like this could never hapen here, I’m sure you can illegally get your hands on a gun, but it makes it much harder.

The majority of mass shootings in America occur because they have easy access to a gun.

The unstable people responsible for these atrocities would be highly unlikely to have ever obtained a licence or a gun in the UK.
Im not even going to go into the amount of accidental child shootings!

I think British people in general have much more respect and awareness of the dangers of guns.
The American attitude seems much more blazey.

I certainly don’t think guns should be banned anywhere.
I do,  however feel that the US could take our lead when it comes to this.

This was a recent BBC News Article on Us shooting statistics.

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-us-canada-34996604

America is without a doubt one of my favourite countries in the world, hence why at every opportunity we are back visiting.

The week before the Orlando shootings I was in Disneyworld with Mike and the children.
It was the 25th Anniversary of GayDays,  one of the largest Gay celebrations in the world. 
It is estimated at least 50,000 Gay men and women attend.
The first Saturday in June they visit Magic Kingdom, Orlando …..the same day as we were there!
It was fantastic!  What I loved was the complete normality, love and acceptance of everyone there. 

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So,  when a complete no mark,  a screwed up, evil c#@t who probably struggled with his own sexuality manages to get his vile hands on an assault rifle and hand gun and opens fire on one of our most colourful and beautiful communities then we must stand together and realise, for every evil,  mental extremist there are far more good, decent,  people full of love, acceptance and understanding in our world.

We Stand United

My love, prayers and thoughts go out to the men and women and their friends and family involved in the Orlando shootings 💔