‘Psychologists have suggested that mothers should take holidays with friends, not family – and this includes leaving the children behind.
Experts are urging tired mothers to go on “mum-cations”, holidays without their offspring, to take a proper break.
With this in mind, me and three of my closest girlfriends booked a ‘mumcation’ to Vilamoura for a few days in October.
A few people asked me if the weather was going to be any good in Portugal that time if year, as if we were crazy not to follow the blazing sun.
These people had totally missed the point of a mumcation.
Of corse good weather would be preferable, but honestly, if i could go to the toilet on my own, sleep without someones foot digging in my boobs and sit down by a pool without worrying who is going to drown/get abducted or piss off fellow vacationers, I would be a happy girl.
This weekend was more than a girls weekend, It was therapy and It gave me a chance to really relax and unwind.
When you become a mum your life revolves around these little people (rightly so), but we all need to keep our individual identity and take time out for ourselves, it is a huge factor to how I cope as a mum.
Whether it is a night out with Mike, drinks with the girls or a shopping trip entirely on my own, it is my time out.
It is my chance to clear my head of football training, horse riding, boxing, school pick up, kids parties, laundry, dinner etc and focus on me.
The morning we left I felt a complete mixture of emotions. I have been away on my own before, but not abroad since our two youngest have been born.
Let me picture the morning I left for Portugal for you…..
‘George, Arthur, come here, give me a kiss, I am going to miss you so much’
*GEORGE EMPTIES BUCKET OF LEGO ON MY BEDROOM CARPET*
‘FFS George!!! This is why i need a break’
‘George I am sorry, come here and give me a kiss’
*ARTHUR POURS THE CONTENTS OF MY COLD COFFEE OVER MY BED*
……..’Rosie, how long are you going to be? I know the flight is in 8 hours but we dont want to risk missing it’
From the moment Rosie picked me up to when she dropped me back to my door four days later, I did not stop laughing!
We talked about everything, nothing was off the table.
We talked about our kids, our partners and our friends, we discussed designer vaginas, sex and how to make a Wood pigeon call with your tounge.
We did eachothers make up and hair and shared eachothers clothes.
We people watched and ate great food (without a high chair or childrens menu in sight!)
We shared secrets and drank, we drank lots!
We danced every night until the early hours and the one day the weather was bit ‘meh’ we found a great shopping mall and we shopped. I picked up a couple of treats for the kids snd a little something for me…. (do you like my new boots?)
I managed to read a whole book! From start to finish, in one weekend. If you don’t have kids, this may seem ridiculous, if you do you kids, well, you know.
Guess what else I did? And I haven’t done this since I was about 21….. I had an afternoon nap! A siesta if you will.
Not because I had just given birth or because I dozed off breast feeding a baby, but because I consciously chose to!
Another thing. I have never enjoyed a hangover so much.
Knowing you can eat, drink and sleep your way through it without having to make food for little ones, read stories and change nappies makes a hangover so much easier to bear.
I can only describe the weekend as Bad Moms meets The Hangover with a drizzle of bridesmaids.
It was bliss…utter bliss and I owe my girls so much for being the perfect friends.
Their laid back natures ment there were no tantrums, no arguments and by the time we were due to come home I felt so ready to see Mike and the kids and be ‘mum’ again.
I urge you to try it! Book something up! It doesnt have to expensive, it doesnt have to be abroad.
A weekend in Portugal cost us £250 each (plus spending money). Easyjet flights were £150 return from Gatwick to Faro and our apartment at The Dom Pedro Portobelo was right on the marina where all the bars and restaurants are.
It comfortably accomodated the four of us and cost £100 each for the four nights.
I asked some fellow mum blogger what their opinionon ‘Mumcations’ is, here is what they had to say:
Rebecca at www.beccablogsitout.com
I haven’t had one and I’m.not sure I could. I’d love to, in theory. I could definitely use a break. But I think I’d feel too guilty if I went away for more than a day without the twins. I think I’d miss them.
Jenna at www.thentherewerethree.uk
‘I’ve had some! I met an amazing bunch of ladies on a birth group on Facebook and we arrange a couple of weekend breaks a year. We’ve booked a farmhouse in north wales, various city stays and are going to see the Spice Girls next year. I definitely think they’re needed.’
Francessca at https://frompenniestopounds.com
‘I’ve been on hen do’s and also my honeymoon without my daughter. With the honeymoon we went to Mexico which you can’t just pop over for, but I said I would not go for longer than 10 days.
I missed her but she had a great time with her grandparents. I was never close to my grandparents so I’m happy for her to spend time with them.
I think it’s healthy for both you and the kids.
I always take my daughter away every year now though since splitting up with my ex-husband.’
Gail at www.yammymommy.co.uk
‘Still can’t do more than a night away from my 4 year old. I think we would both struggle after 24 hours!’
Victoria at www.travelvixta.com
‘I haven’t yet, but I think in a couple of years once my youngest is at school then I’d love to go on a yoga retreat by myself! They look like bliss and even now with a 6 year old and 3 year old I feel like I could really do with some time to myself and a break for a few days to a retreat!’